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Friday Morning Castleton Abstinence and Growth Meeting

@Castleton Church of the Nazarene • Indianapolis, IN

CHAIRPERSON'S AGENDA

(telemeeting version)

Please begin the meeting promptly at 7am

Make this agenda and the readings below available to the group by pasting the URL (www.johnnyreco.com/frinaz) into the 'CHAT' window once the meeting has started. (Chat posts are only available to participants at the time they are posted.)

WELCOME:

Good day, and welcome to the Friday morning Abstinence and Growth group meeting of Sex Addicts Anonymous. My name is ______________ and I am serving as your chairperson today.

  • Please set your audio to 'Mute' when you are not speaking.

  • Open the Zoom CHAT feature to share numbers, websites and other information.
     

This is a closed meeting for sex addicts and persons desiring their own sexual sobriety. Let us begin the meeting with a moment of silence and the Serenity Prayer.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

the courage to change the things I can, and

the wisdom to know the difference.

READINGS:

Is there a volunteer to read:

The Meeting Statement of Purpose

The SAA Preamble

How It Works

The 12 Steps

This Month's Tradition

           & The Promises

INTRODUCTION OF NEWCOMERS:

If this is your very first SAA meeting, please introduce yourself by your first name only.

• If there is a first-timer: Do we have someone who can welcome the newcomer?  This person will review information with you to help you become familiar with and grounded in the program.

If this is the first time you have attended this SAA meeting, please introduce yourself so we may welcome you also.

This group also considers anyone with less than 30 days of abstinence to be a newcomer.  If you are a newcomer in this sense, please raise your hand so that we may show our support. 

 

SPONSORSHIP:

We have found that sponsorship is an important tool for recovery. Is there anyone in need of a sponsor?  Can anyone offer to be a sponsor? 

 

We have also found that making and receiving phone calls is an important tool for recovery. 

Should you wish to receive a phone call for any reason, please put your name and number in the CHAT SECTION of the software that we are using here, and others can simply copy those from the comments.

 

ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Does anyone have any announcements?


BIRTHDAYS:

In this program, we take time to recognize those who have reached any milestones of consecutive clean time. Is there anyone who is celebrating: 30 days? 60 days? 90 days? 6 months? 9 months? 18 months? One year or multiples of years?

 

COLLECTION(?):

We are self-supporting in keeping with the Seventh Tradition.

A Paypal portal has been set up for donations to our local group. Go to https://bit.ly/localSAAdonations to give using a debit card or credit card.

TRUSTED SERVANTS REPORT:

Do we have a report from our Secretary? Treasurer? Inter-group? GSR?.

TOPIC:

Is there a presentation for today? If not, does anyone have a topic for discussion?

_________________


CLOSING:

Before we close, is there a volunteer to Chair next week's meeting?

Is there anyone who is ready to schedule a Step or other abstinence and spiritual growth related presentation for next week?

Remember this is a closed meeting for sex addicts and persons desiring their own sexual sobriety. 
What you hear here, who you see here, when you leave here, leave it here!

Please join me in a moment of silence for those who still suffer, followed by the we version of the Serenity Prayer.

God, grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Keep coming back.

It works if you work it,

because you're worth it!

Statement of Purpose
The SAA Preamble

Meeting Statement of Purpose 

We understand recovery to be abstinence from all sexually addictive behaviors coupled with on-going spiritual growth. With the support of the group, each addict develops his or her own program around these two principles:


1. We support each other In abstinence by helping each member to:

  • Identify a list of all sexually addictive behaviors.

  • Establish boundaries that deter acting out and safeguard abstinence.

  • Maintain and refine those boundaries.

2. We support each other in spiritual growth by helping each member to:

  • Do on-going work on the 12 steps of SAA.

  • Stay in an active sponsorship relationship.

  • Develop and carry out a daily recovery plan.

 

Abstinence is not a requirement for group membership. However, we have learned that unless we hold it up as a goal and hold each other accountable to work for it, the "cunning, baffling and powerful" nature of our addiction will lead us to believe that it is not necessary to our recovery. We have also learned that it is necessary to respect each other as sexual beings; therefore we take the time to identify what behaviors are sexually healthy for us. Finally, our experience has taught us that by abstaining from all sexually addictive behaviors and working for spiritual growth, new opportunities open to us for healing in our sexuality and our whole lives.


Through working the spiritual program of the 12 steps in this way, we have found that we are being led by our Higher Power to freedom from sexual compulsion, to a healthy sexuality and true serenity.

 

 

 

 

The SAA Preamble

 

SAA is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other, that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from their sexual addiction. The only requirement for membership is the desire to stop addictive sexual behavior.

  • Membership is open to all who share a desire to stop addictive sexual behavior. There is no other requirement.

  • Our common goals are to become sexually healthy and to help other sex addicts achieve freedom from compulsive sexual behavior.

  • SAA is supported through voluntary contributions from members.

  • We are not affiliated with any other twelve-step programs, nor are we a part of any other organization. We do not support, endorse, or oppose outside causes or issues.

  • SAA is a spiritual program based on the principles and traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous. We are grateful to AA for this gift which makes our recovery possible.

 

HOW IT WORKS

Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program; usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty.

 

There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest.

Our stories disclose in a general way what we used to be like, what happened, and what we are like now. If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it — then you are ready to take certain steps.

At some of these, we balked. We thought we could find an easier, softer way. But we could not. With all the earnestness at our command, we beg of you to be fearless and thorough from the very start. Some of us have tried to hold on to our old ideas and the result was nil until we let go absolutely.

Remember that we deal with sex addiction — cunning, baffling, powerful! Without help it is too much for us. But there is One who has all power — that One is God. May you find Him now!

Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning point. We asked His protection and care with complete abandon.

 

The 12 Steps of SAA

Here are the steps we took, which are suggested as a program of recovery:

1. We admitted we were powerless over addictive sexual behavior - that our lives had become unmanageable.

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to other sex addicts and to practice these principles in our lives.

Many of us exclaimed, “What an order! I can’t go through with it.’’ Do not be discouraged. No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints. The point is, that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The principles we have set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection.

 Our understanding of sexual addiction and our personal adventures before and after make clear three pertinent ideas:
   a.  That we were sexually addicted and could not manage our own lives.
   b.  That probably no human power could have relieved our addictive behavior.
   c.  That God could and would if God were sought.

 

The 12 Traditions of SAA

1/JAN. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon SAA unity.

2/FEB. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority — a loving God as expressed in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.

3/MAR. The only requirement for SAA membership is a desire to stop addictive sexual behavior.

4/APR. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or SAA as a whole.

5/MAY. Each group has but one primary purpose — to carry its message to the sex addict who still suffers.

6/JUN. An SAA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the SAA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.

7/JUL. Every SAA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.

8/AUG. Sex Addicts Anonymous should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers.

9/SEP. SAA, as such, ought never be organized, but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.

10/OCT. Sex Addicts Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the SAA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.

11/NOV. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, TV, and films.

12/DEC. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

 

The Promises


1. If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are halfway through.

2. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.

3. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.

4. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace.

5. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.

6. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.

7. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.

8. Self-seeking will slip away.

9. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.

10. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.

11. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.

12. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves

Are these extravagant promises?


GROUP: We think not.


They are being fulfilled among us — sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them.

How it Works
The 12 Steps of SAA
The 12 Traditions
The Promises
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