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December 09 • Respect This

Day 518

I have often heard that sexual impropriety — in whatever of its many forms — is just an expression of not respecting ourselves or not respecting another person. As a hardcore respecter of myself and other people, this thinking likely kept me from acting out most of my life while also increasing my guilt and pent-up passions as I grotesquely disrespected myself and every woman that ever entered my fantasy world.

I was ashamed of what I did in my darkness while being self-righteous about how I controlled myself in the light of the real world. I was a time-bomb waiting to trigger.

Honestly, I've never understood putting this into the arena of respect or disrespect. Doing so suggests that simple decisiveness plays a more powerful role than what I've experienced. I do get where it's trying to go, but for me, such labeling serves more as a short-answer misdirection than guidance for self-behavior.



If you disrespect anybody that you run in to

How in the world do you think anybody's s'posed to respect you

If you don't give a heck 'bout the man with the bible in his hand, y'all

Just get out the way, and let the gentleman do his thing

–The Staple Singers, ”Respect Yourself"



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