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Isolation or Just Solitude?

Day 176

My name is John, and I'm a sex addict.

In the early days of my recovery, I heard repeated references and encouragements that suggested I need to learn to be okay with being alone. The Bible speaks to the solitude of my soul with

"...be still and know that I am God."

I've heard others in recovery refer to becoming strong enough and loving themselves enough, that they were no longer afraid of being by themselves.

Perhaps there is a nuanced difference between solitude and isolation that I am missing. I don't have any trouble being alone most of the time, but that is also where I am most at risk for pressures and mistakes that contributed to my addiction. How do I find that balance between these benefits of solitude vs the inherent risks of my isolation?



A little hope, goes up in smoke

Just how it goes, goes without saying

There was a man, a lonely man

Who would command the hand he's playing

–Carpenters, "Solitaire"


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